Anger is a normal emotion. It is part of the Human Experience. Anger happens when our perceived needs or wants are not met. *’Anger is an emotion that tells us when something may be wrong. For example, we may feel angry when something is beyond our control or feels unfair, when we can’t reach a goal, or when someone is hurt or threatened. We can also feel angry when we are under too much stress. Anger can involve a wide range of feelings.’
Anger exists on a sliding scale. From ticked, to annoyed, to frustrated, stressed, to outright demonstrations of words, swearing, put downs (self or others) throwing things, putting down people important to the one you are angry with, kicking the dog or cat, damaging property, violence – hitting. punching, slapping, threatening violence to another person, or their property, or loved ones, or even their pet.
ANGER, OF ITSELF IS NEITHER RIGHT OR WRONG. HOW IT IS EXPRESSED AND DEALT WITH IS THE KEY.
People THINK that their anger is someone else’s fault, or some situation has caused their anger. SO THEY OFTEN EXCUSE THEIR BEHAVIOUR.
*** There is NO EXCUSE for behaviour that acts out the anger in a negative way. WE CAN LEARN TO ACKNOWLEDGE our OWN anger as MY RESPONSE to a situation, ACCEPT responsibility for handling it appropriately, LEARN what that looks like and CHOOSE to do it.
QUESTION: (Please comment) HOW DO WE KNOW THAT OUR BEHAVIOUR WHEN ANGRY IS A CHOICE?
*From Canadian Mental Health Association